Can we swap mother in laws, yours sounds great, I wish mine gave a stuff, shes never bought us anything. I think you are over reacting, shes just trying to be helpful. Sounds like she enjoys it, let her have that.

my mil is a very sweet woman, but she has a ’shopping addiction’ (my diagosis of course)…i am not ungrateful and don’t want to appear that way, but every time she comes, she brings a bunch of clothes, shoes, whatever for my dd; i have explained many times that we don’t need that much stuff and we don’t have room to store it …but she brings so much, i dont’ think she remembers half of it; i pick out what i like and the rest goes to charity…it’s helpful, but at the same time, i do like to sometimes pick clothes that I LIKE for my dd; so i have just learned to smile and say thank you and do what i please with all the stuff….

It would bother me-It’s one thing to help when it’s not asked for, but when you’ve talked to her about it and made it clear that you aren’t lookng for a hand out, and that you are perfectly capable of buying stuff for yourself, she should respect that and bug off.

I **** pushy MIL’s, I don’t mind that they want to be a part of the childs life but when they start to try to control my territory things in it, then I get pissed off. If my MIL started bringing random furniture here and trying to decorate the baby’s room her way I would most likely flip kick her out. I’m a bit$h that way though! LOL

Just tell your husband to tell her you really don’t need anything else. My in laws had a habit of giving us junk they got free or stuff from their house they didn’t want. So it would collect in our house in the basement.

The problem is if you try to sell the stuff she will ask what happened to it. Just tell your husband you don’t need anything else and tell him to tell her that while you appreciate the thought, to please stop buying things.

If your husband refuses to tell her to stop then you will have to do it yourself.

Hmmm….. well, I can totally understand where you are coming from. Its not that you are ungrateful for these things, but it would be nice to pick out what you want or need.

I know the feeling. My husbands family dumps all kinds of stuff on me. It really can be bothersome because everything I own is all things I was given, not picked out, and it doesn’t always serve teh purpose I need and its hard to coordinate a bunch of miss matched furniture into a smaller sized home.

I try and explain to them, in a nice manner, that I won’t be needing anymore things, but sure enough, I see my MIL coming over with a big lamp in here hand or a end table, it gets to the point where it gets old. Every time you clean out the house you don’t need to bring me your discarded items.

I always tell them to donate these things to a charity or to For Goodness sakes, to people that actually need these things. I assume they think it is easier to just dump this stuff on me and let me get rid of it. But the thing that really ***** is we only have cars, and they all have trucks, and its hard for me to get rid of all this stuff.

My basement is packed full of stuff I didn’t want or ask for.

As far as the teething cookies, just donate them some where like to the food pantry. Tell her they didn’t work out for her, so she won’t buy more.

I know your position. Its hard to say to much because you don’t want to be ungrateful, but on the other hand, it can get a little annoying.

Good luck, when you find the perfect solution, I am all ears, as I have been dealing with this very same problem for some time now!

tell her she bought it , she keeps it. you dont need any of it.

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No not really it would bother me as well, maybe she is trying to be helpful and trying to save you money…
My own mother tries to organize my life for me sometimes but I just put my foot down when it is something I feel strongly about…
Dont let the little things niggle at you, when your new hamper comes give the old one to your MIL same with the table say it doesnt fit or it just doesnt suit, if she wants to buy bargain specials let her have them lol I think she will stop..
Its a bit hard though as she looks after your daughter but she has to respect your wishes if she still wants to look after the baby

1] first, talk to your husband. It is your house [ BOTH of you ]; and you should BOTH pick out items for it – together.
2] If he doesn’t care, fine; but you do – so NO MORE SURPRISES!!
3] I **** surprises for my house too.. My husband has learned that – the hard way.
4] YOU get to start any new foods – YOU are the mom.